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Empathic Effort

In our primary relationship, we all want to be understood. We want our partners to "get" us. Whether we're upset or joyful or sad, whether we're disappointed, excited, or discouraged, we want our partner to accept and understand what it is we're feeling.

Why Marriage Is Healthy Except When It Isn’t

It has long been understood that there is a connection between long-term relationships and health. There is also a reciprocal relationship between marriage and health, where not only is marriage affected by illness, but the quality of marriage can actually influence the course of an illness.

A Podcast Series from The Family Institute

In this podcast episode, Neil Venketramen, staff therapist at The Family Institute, interviews Dr. Linda Rubinowitz, our senior therapist and assistant clinical professor of Psychology who has been on the teaching and clinical supervision faculty at Northwestern University, and specifically The Family Institute, for 27 years. Dr. Rubinowitz explains how one's family of origin and early experiences affect their current relationship challenges, and emphasizes the importance of respect and care when addressing clients' historical problems in couples therapy.

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

In this podcast episode, Neil Venketramen, staff therapist at The Family Institute, interviews Dr. Cheryl Rampage, our senior academic and clinical advisor and clinical associate advisor who has more than three decades of experience treating individuals, couples and families. Dr. Rampage addresses the misconceptions that many couples have about the experience of "being in love," and explores what the partners themselves or couples therapy can do to rekindle the intimacy and introduce novelty into their long-term romantic relationship. 

Your Bank Account

Every marriage has an invisible emotional bank account. We make deposits into the account through acts of kindness, words of admiration, gestures of support, and more. We make withdrawals from the account by moments of unkindness, harsh or unfair criticism, words or actions that trigger hurt feelings, and more.

Prompt Each Other

It's a widespread complaint of women: men don't know how to listen without rushing in to give advice and offer a solution. "I'm not looking for advice," many women say, "I just want to be heard, to get something off my chest." Through some mysterious blend of nature and nurture, guys just want to find a fix.

Women: try a prompt.

Today's news of Anthony Bourdain's suicide, and earlier this week Kate Spade's death are tragic reminders that mental illness and suicide can affect anyone regardless of income or success. In addition, it speaks to the enormous impact that suicide has on loved ones - as partners, children, friends and family struggle with their loss.

Becoming a Family: Nurturing your Connection in the Transition to Parenthood

Becoming a parent is one of the most profound transitions in life an individual will experience, and for a couple becoming parents together is an extraordinary and life-long journey that bonds them together. So why is it, then, that it is so common for parenthood to decrease relationship satisfaction?

Northwestern Alumni Career Webinar Series

Love takes work. We know that to be true, yet with the demands of kids, jobs, volunteer work, and family, it is all too easy to put our romantic relationships on the back burner. In this webinar, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon will discuss what it takes to nurture emotional and sexual intimacy in a long-term relationship. Dr.

Northwestern Alumni Career Webinars

During the past 40 years, dual-income households have nearly doubled, and female breadwinning households are on the rise. In this discussion, we will cover the unique challenges dual-income couples face from the "second-shift" to the current child-centered parenting culture that place a strain on relationships.